Frenemy

Is there a need to have friends? What’s the need to have friends? Is it a “Have or Die” syndrome? Is friendship overrated or underrated?

You get to meet every Tom, Dick and Harry, engage in a conversation, laugh, share memories exchange numbers and BAM!, the next minute you all go <strong>“MY FRIEND” </strong>coupled with a broad mischievous laugh alongside “onlyGodknowswhatsinyourheart”.

I don’t intend to fickle your thoughts or opinions on this topic but I really can’t deal with the way this word”FRIEND” is personified to every T, D and H.

Personally, I just realized I have lots of friends on social media (of which I’d take my time to make good use of my delete buttons on personal platforms like BBM). With over 100 contacts on BBM, 130 on whatsapp and 527 friends on facebook (of which close to 350+ are unknown), Would I just conclude that they are my friends?. I’m sorry “NO!”.  Just as ori yato sori, same way ore yato sore.

While I was in the orientation camp, I knew these girls in my hostel to be friends. The relationship was so close that I thought they had known each other for so long. A little fight sprung up and BAM! It was time to unleash the dragon. Secrets were out! All the borrow posts parole was leaked. Sincerely, I enjoyed the dramas especially the gists behind every secrets from both parties but I totally disliked the fact that they had to go so far to snitch on each other. “MAKA WHY?”.  It was so serious that one of the female soldiers had to intervene just to let peace reign.  Within me , I’m like “Shuo! Na by force to make friends?”. Guess where they met? At the gate while registering.

Recently, I watched the project Fame Auditions and the kooky acts by some contestants gives me mixed feelings.  While trying to deal with my uncontrollable laughter, the next thing that comes through my mind is “Does this one have a friend?”.

Before I embark on anything, asides God, I discuss it with either my friend or date. This isn’t because I don’t have a mind of my own to take decisions but I need to know the truth. People watch me, they know my flaws, every step I take could seem perfect to me. In my head I could feel as if I’m singing like Celine Deon but out there, only a truth friend knows I sound like a crocodile and of course, a true friend would tell me that.

Imagine those terrible children that disgraced themselves on air, perhaps, they are like me who sounds better than Beyonce in the bathroom but before I dare apply for the audition. I must have told a friend who would tell me “If I’m good to go or better still, work more on my voice”.

This reminds me of when I asked my bro if he could direct me to any studio (cos I really wanted to some recordings). Below is our conversation:

Me: Dami! Do you know if there’s any studio around where I can do some recordings.

Bro: Studiio? I don’t think so. What do you want to do there?

Me: I need to go and record my song. A demo tsha!

Bro: (Laughs) You want to go and sing?

Me: Yes! Don’t you know I sing

Bro: I’ve never heard you sing. Oya sing xef, lemme hear you

That’s a practical example of what a friend should do. A good friend should be:

Always ready to accept you(GOD! FAMILY! GOD!)
Trustworthy and genuine (I have a friend who is always genuine to me with my looks. If my cream is having this harsh reactions on my face and I’m turning white. She’d go all @Deb, you look like a ghost”. That could sound harsh but that’s what a real friend would do. Shoutout to Bash!.
Your ride or die G (Always there through the toughs, ups and downs! Shoutout to my darling bae. I don’t mean to be prideful (hehe!) but He knows I’m an asset. LOL
Your judge, adviser and critic (I was in the studio last week Tuesday and all my voice could bring out was rubbish! Instead!| this dear friend kept telling me what to do. I kept hitting myself hard to say something rather than waste time. I messed up that day but then, this friend helped me out. I’ve posted some topics on here through his help and advice. Big hugs to Jeezy!)
Your gist mate( This is Someone you can tell anything, nasty gists and little gossips. Mrs Ayandeyi and Flore! I love you guys always )
Supportful
Know what you can and can’t do (Back In my UnderG days, There are times my friend goes out to have fun, comes back and start gisting me. When I get angry for her not calling me cos I almost died of boredom, she’d go all “I know sey na where you no fit go, can you go with me next time when I call you” and I’d be all nba! I no do. A friend should be able to vouch for you)
Full of humour
Someone who can call you “stupid” and it sounds hilarious to you : You cant just call me “Ode” for nothing, the next minute its either I lash my tongue at you or climb a chair to give you a dirty slap. (I have so many nicknames(I wont mention all). But All thanks to  my friends. (Nobody calls me “Sniper” better than her…..)
After all is typed and read, Do you still need a Friend?