Hey Sisters,

So i was on Linda's blog yesterday and this post caught my attention. The first thing that came to my mind was "we (ladies) are the ones who gives guy/men the chance to disrespect us".
One factor that i think causes this is money. Fine! everybody likes money. Personally, i love money but one thing i would never choose to happen in my relationship is "share my man with any female aside his sisters, female cousins and mom".

I've realized men claim to know our mumu button and funny enough we fall for it and that mumu button "to most girls" is material things. Once they calculate and figure out that this guy has it all, bam! bae is in.

What has happened to that integrity?

We all hear that "men are cheats, men are cheats" but sis, you are the one helping/making them become cheats. How? 
This guy comes to ask you out and from what you've seen or heard, you know he's got a girl he's dating (infact, some guys would tell you he has a girlfriend who he would soon call off the relationship with). A girl in her right senses should know that a time would come, if she gives in, this guy would do something similar to her but nada! some of my fellow sisters would do that with the assumption of "make i chop im money small".
That's when we give playboys the chance, that's where true love never comes in because we've made them believe that once they flaunt the money, we'd dance to their tune. That's when they don't see the need to sweat it before they get what they want from us because they feel they've got it all.

I don't want to believe i'm the only one that has something to say about this.
Sure you have some views, kindly use the comment box.

Happy weekend darls

My Love for SULI BREAKS

Right from the first time i watched him speak through this video , follow the leader  ,my love for him was at its peak. The way this dude speak, his words, the rhymes, the message (i'm speechless). He's just too good, too good to the extent that i watched most(not all) of his videos on youtube.  Aside the fact that this guy uses his poems in form of spoken words, nigga is cute.

There's this good feeling i have when i see a cute dude that's so intelligent. I kent explain it.Nigga is cute biko!

I even learnt he has a book, sadmuch the only person i know(albert) that has it only has the hardcopy*sobs*.
I won't beg you but i implore you to please try to download this video, you'd love it. I saw "american't and "follow the leader" of late and i tell you, its cool.
I love sharing stuffs like this so i'd know if i'm stale or not. I thought i've seen most of Suli break's video not untill albert(my friend) told me the number of videos he has seen.
I learnt videos can be downloaded via youtube but this babe knows nada about it*i for don download all the videos finish*.

A note to SuliBreaks: I really want you to come to Lagos, i want to watch you speak live. I won't even mind having a personal pix with you. My only prayer is the gatefee shouldn't be overpriced.
I love you so much Sulibreaks.

Class of 2014 : Corporate day

The journey of four years has almost come to and end. Second semester is engaged with various activities and as is the normal tradition, every department has a week for various activities ranging from corporate day, costume day/old school day, jersey day et al.
Yesterday was day 1 of the departmental week and as usual, the dress sense in an official or educational institution should be corporate. So, below are pictures of yours truly and my coursemates. ENJOY!!

Bidemi and 1

Class of 2014(female)

Dora, IBK, Bidemi, Dami and I

Florence and I

My Gen Sec.

Bisi and I

Group picture

SISTERHOOD OF THE WORLD BLOGGERS AWARD

*in timaya's voice* Zaaaaaga! my first nomination ever. Thanks darling. Ok! back to buisness.
The award is passed from blogger to blogger(who are ladies) and there are just 4 conditions you have to meet when you accept the award.

The Rules
1. Thank the blogger who nominated you, linking back to their site.

2. Put the award logo on your blog.

3. Answer their ten questions.

4. Make up ten new questions for your nominees
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5. Nominate 10 bloggers

Yaaaayness! So i was nominated by amaka, this is my first nomination ever.
This is her request: "Tell us about a part of you that you struggled with(maybe a habit, nose, shape, leg etc) and how you over came the fear......
the aim: to help ladies accept every part of their bodies and personalities (she decided to break the 10 questions norm, isn't that lovely?)


*clearsthroat* Okay!!! Once again, i was nominated by amaka and this is the first ever , asin first ever, so puhleeeze let me say it over and over again cos its shacking me (beht wait, can anyone translate shacking me to a correct english)?
Sincerely speaking before i answer the question, i actually realized i struggled with two fears: Academic wise and my body(on behalf of the team light in complexion) hehe!.


Ok! I don't know if its just me or its applicable to all fair ladies, i realize once i use a particular cream twice (asin finish a cup, then use another cup), the effect of the cream doesn't work anymore. The next thing i'd hear is "you're getting dark, what cream do you use? Change your cream or soap, blablabla" and then the struggle begins on "which kind of cream can i use?

I actually struggled with this skin of mine ehn! right from secondary school days, which cream have i not used ranging from Bio Claire, Peau Claire, Diva, Fashion fair, Visible difference*i kent even name it all xef*, that was then o (asin back in those days o.. )before i graduated to fair and white, i even use the soap xef and the serum, otentika, nivea, (*believe me those are the ones i can remember).
The struggle was bad, recently I decided to use fair and white body oil. At first, people were magnifying the glory of the Lord on how my skin was radiant and I kept saying i'd use this oil forever, nobody can make me change it not untill I bought that body oil the second time and few weeks later comments started rolling in, Debby you're getting dark o, abeg change your cream. You used to be lighter than me before, now i think we're now having the same color shade. It was so bad that colour 2 powder blended to my face and then i knew its high time i change that cream.


I overcame this fear by seeing a dermatologist who gave me a secret recipe on how to deal with the skin. Presently, i've started my recipe in a coded way. hehe! and i refuse to hear what people are saying anymore about how light or dark i am.  I've not overcame it yet, i'm still overcoming that fear (LOL)



The second struggle i had was with a specific course in my academic, infact, thats a recent struggle. Last semester, i offered a course ADE 401 of which our predecessors have told us a lot about the lecturer.  Funny enough, it turned out real in our set(Class of 2014)  and the main gist was no matter how good the class is, a student fails that course. Its so bad that even if you need a mark to cross over to the A grade, this woman won't dash you 1 mark(asin 69 - 70). So, everyone really tried. The struggle started with her test, she gave us 15 minutes for 3 to 4 questions i guess and believe me that time wasn't enough.
The test script was marked and distributed to the class and i had a 6/20. (I mean) Ahmean!I aimed for an A in that course, and within me i wondered how an A can be achieved starting with 6/20 as the test score.
The next challenge was presentation (group presentation to be precise),  i really prepared for that even though i still don't know what i scored but sincerely speaking that test score really weighed me down. I ensured i prepared and read well for the exam. When the results were out, I heard gists of how a meeting was called because 19 students failed the course, i was worried because the results wasn't uploaded online yet and my class has this low population of just 48 students.
It was good news when i checked online and i saw a B.

I overcame the fear by reading, jacking, digesting  all the crinkrum crankrum in ADE 401 and it worked for me with a B despite the fact that i had a 6/20 in my test. Ain't that great?.


I actually don't have up to 10 nominees (shame on me) but i'd nominate my sweet namesake debby and the question still remains the same (because i'm still battling with my questionnaire and i think i'm bad with questions).
So Deb, kindly tell us a part of you that you struggled with and how you overcame the fear.

Have a lovely day ahead.

Culture of Excellence

Hi darlings, a happy new week to y'all.How was your weekend? Was it cool for you (in terms of relaxation) or you were involved in the normal Owambe sturvs?.

So i was on my way back to school yesterday morning and since I didn't go to church, i tuned in to Inspiration fm (92.3)  (i love their programmes on sunday).
I didn't start the programme with them but within that time frame (10:00 - 11:00am, a christian audio tape is always played ) to fill the gap for those of y'all who missed church. LOL
For the short while that i listened, perhaps less than 15 minutes before my phone battery was low, I MUST CONFESS that I was motivated and i learnt a lot.
I actually didn't listen from the start  so I didn't get to know the name of the preacher but I knew he's a Ghanaian(from the examples he gave while preaching) and i made good use of the memo pad on my phone, that's why i'm writing this article.

The preacher talked about God giving us the same brain/knowledge and that no matter how much God gives, if you don't have a culture of excellence, even if God gives you the brain, you can't show it. Excellence is a spirit, its an attitude, Its the way we respond to life, its what we have(and then my phone went off but that's not all).

God deposited in all of us same brain, storage, and even the same qualities but the problem we have is how we utilize it. How we make good use of it. An instance is the smart phone we all use, some people don't know how to make good use of it, they use it for the normal phone calls, text message, browse, ping and to them they've explore with the phone, believe me! that's a tip of the iceberg compared to other operators.

If God gives us copper, we could try to refine little things out of it. If God gives us Gold, we'd refine a lot of things out of it but fact is gold o, copper o, diamond o, anything. Bottom line is "Whatever you have at any moment of your life, no matter how little it is, try to create something big out of". The parable of the three servants who their master gave different talent is enough to use as a source of reference.

No matter how much or brekete way God blesses you, if you don't have the spirit or culture of excellence in you, it would never be obvious. Funny enough, we don't take note of little things that comes our way as blessing, because what we always expect as "blessings" is that 'it must be really big". If from the little way God blesses you, he wants to pave a greater way for you, but as a result of negligence or being expectant in a huge way, you lose the blessing.

That aside, if you don't have the culture of excellence, how would you even be able to make good use of the brain,  you kent show it. If you don't try to develop it through the assistance of God , you'd find it hard to achieve some things.
It is important for us to know that:
Excellence is a spirit.
Excellence is an attitude (Dan10:12).
Its the way we respond to life.
Its what we have.

I hope this post is meaningful to you. Do have your days filled with excellence.
Deb loves y'all

Let's Create That Family.

Show me a family of readers, and I will show you the people who move the world― Napoleon . Little wonder we always come across the word “Readers are leaders”.

I could reminisce into my early childhood how my dad realized my flair for reading books and he actually improved that ability in me by buying me short story books. My dad is a person who irrespective of the little time he has, ensures he buys at least a newspaper every week. I can’t count the number of times he’d give me money for transport fare to the next bus-stop if perhaps I was late to meet the vendor. I've learnt what nobody has taught me through some of his collection of books. 

That alone helped me develop my reading skills, While I was in junior secondary school, I spent most of my money buying short story books worth  50# to 100# (back in the days). My reading habit didn’t just start in a day, my dad realized my flair for it and developed that habit in  me.

Fast forward to date, I realized our society doesn’t see any big deal in books or any material that passes across knowledge. We know the latest about showbiz ranging from Kim K down to our own artistes here but do we even know the latest book by Joyce Meyer, MMH or our very own Pastor Sam Adeyemi.

 

In our environment, we see bars, clubs, eateries everywhere but come to think of it, one can hardly find a library. Not  just a library, one can hardly find a place established as a center that passes knowledge across. 

I think this society I find myself in has made me realize libraries are only meant to be in school, private organisations(special libraries)  and nowhere else.

Aside the fact that Social media has caused a turn around, (I mean you can download some books online), what has the government or well to do citizens done about creating a centre for learning, library or anything that would increase our knowledge and get us informed. I won't ignore the fact that I know the spirit of hustling flows through our blood, but this can start with our younger generations.

 I have an intention of owing a large library at my area in Badagry, Not now, not soon but when its right.You could take a step, you could do something too. One thing I keep promising myself is “I must ensure I own a library in my house”. Its a must. Reading doesn’t have to be done just in school. I’ve started getting my personal library stocked by investing in books.

I’d use myself as an example, not everyone can read anywhere. Personally, I can’t read in a lousy environment except I’m recalling, I can’t read in my room because I’d feel so comfortable and perhaps sleep off. If I’m not in school and I really want to read, because there’s no library around, does it mean I shouldn’t read?.

There’s no big deal if a library is constructed in the heart of a solemn community and lend books out to members of that community. 

I’m writing this article to motivate us, we can start something now, buy books, start your own library, its not bad if churches have a library and get it stocked with different book collections ranging from morals, counsels on marriage, spirituality. e.t.c.

Writers could create a date with their readers by reading stories from some of their publications, interact with the readers and enable them share their views about the books they've read.

I don’t buy books because I only want to read, but I derive this joy in lending my books.

I feel happy when the comment I receive is that ”I love that book you lent me”. I believe I’ve indirectly passed a knowledge across to another generation through that person.

We can start it. The family of readers, we can create that change.

It starts with you and I.