Be Positive!

Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion and success. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects, it finds.

Many have heard it said that another person cannot make you happy. The happiness will come from within you. I beleive whatever comes from within is genuine. Being confident is a choice and it will produce positive emotions. There has been much research done on being in a positive state. It will produce a sense of well-being and has even proven to have multiple health benefits. Successful living today being positive will change your life.

The way that someone feels about themselves shows in the way they act. They always find funny things in everyday life that makes them and others happy. There is joy and cheerfulness that just rubs off on the people who are around them. The way they feel shows in their life because they are more relaxed and sleep better at night. They are not only physically assured but mentally as well. Most people have a spiritual connection that gives them the confident mindset in life.

People who have a confident mindset take full advantage of their work force. They go in everyday with a smile on their face and the confidence that they have the ability to handle anything that comes their way. Their ability to take responsibility and not to blame others when something goes wrong shows that they have a handle on life. Negative emotions have no place with them on their way to success.

Confidence is so much better than looking back and thinking of what could have been. Confident people are ones that you want to be around because they make the most of the present and look forward to the future. They are in awe of the beauty of nature and good things around them.

This behavior comes from choosing the atmosphere that one is around. It is best to surround yourself with assured people that are upbeat and thinking good thoughts. Try to avoid negative news and thinking on unpleasant things. This will be to your advantage in building the blocks in your life of thinking of good wholesome thoughts.

Positive and negative thinking are both contagious.

All of us affect, in one way or another, the people we meet. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through thoughts and feelings transference, and through body language. People sense our aura and are affected by our thoughts, and vice versa. Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive people and avoid negative ones? People are more disposed to help us if we are positive, and they dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting negativity.

Negative thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods and actions. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment.

Becoming a Positive Example to All

Being positive, doing the right things and thinking the right things will produce the kind of behavior that is an example to all. It will be an encouragement to those around you and an example that they can follow. Watching your confident living will help those with negative tendencies to change the way they think. If it changes the course of their lives you have done a great thing. Being careful of the things we say also will manifest how we act. Our conversation should be complimentary and uplifting.

Being tolerant of others is another advantage of being confident. We will not always be treated in the manner that is right. We are not responsible for the negative way that people treat us, but we are responsible for how we react to it. A positive person will realize that sometimes people are a product of their environment. Maybe they didn't have all of the advantages that you did. The right thing to do is to act in a positive way.

It is always positive to think of others. Contributing in positive ways leads to an eternal happiness.

March! Here You Are

Yaaaaaay!
That's how we graciously catwalked into the month of March with Perfect Health, Peace of mind and the Goodthings life could offer us through the Grace of our Redeemer whose Love is sufficient for us.
I need not tell you to give thanks because its my month, our month, the Victorious Soldier kids month. So you could actually give thanks to God on my/our behalf.
This big shout-out goes to my  Dearest Josh Ejikmeuwa and the rest of MarchKids, we don't talk much, even the month(march) speaks for itself.
          To my dear friends, Lets  learn to remain positive-minded irrespective of how bleak your hope might seem. God still got a lot to unveil this year. and have it in mind that "Delay doesn't mean Denial". Be persistent, positive minded, pray and you'd March into Greatness.

Deborah Olamide
DO
       

The Epistle of E311

*SipsFayrouz* I’d like to reminisce about a chat with a friend at the Main Campus Car Park, University of Lagos. Back then in Year one*flipshair*, On my way back from Class at the Faculty of Arts. I still hear myself telling Seun “I’ll really wish to be allocated to Moremi hall before I graduate”. And her response was “I don’t think that wish can turn real, I mean you’re an education student and the farthest place you can be allocated to is either honours or Newhall”

                Trust me, that wish turned out to be a reality even in an awkward way. Dealing with Mr. Ibrahim, Aunty Marvelous who I totally christened “Endurance”(cos indeed all her bragado n shakara’s needed one to be patient and endure at the Love Garden before her braintouch clicked to cool)  was such an herculean task.(That's a later gist)

                Actually Living with strangers ain't a bigdeal, but getting to realize those strangers turned out to be awesome sisters is just unique.
           Those thunderful moment and slangs still seems fresh in  my head. (The “kk, k, Hian- Ho, Ob**so matter, Paruski) even down to the Lion Bed matter*holdslaff*. These pulchiers I had as roomies in the 2012/2013 session who I still have as sisters made my year, day, those moments memorable.
 

Chidinma

1.       Chidinma Okpalaoka(300level Micro Biology):  This Super-Duper chic  was and is still “my first Love”. So down to earth, blunt, and Smart. Lover of music. She can dance ehn! , if the gateway to heaven’s through how sonorous our voice is, she’d go to heaven like someone that’s going to Yaba Market. And yea! She’s  that  only Partner-in-Christ that always gingers my spirit to attend SAF on Monday’s. One word baby, I’d love to be with you over and over and over again.

I and Le Boo

Jacqueline

2.       Jacqueline(500level Chemical Engineering): Great Fashionista, always smiling. Humble!!!. The updated tech chic. Even though IT made you spend a semester with us, you’re still part of us. And Yea!. I miss that Sunday lunch(spaghetti, plantain and chickens) from your mom’s kitchen.

Ope

3.       Omidirepo Opeyemi(400level English Language):  At the moment ehn, I can’t screw up something comprehensive but I’d stick to that title Toyin gave you “First Born”. (*straightface*doesn’t mean I didn’t remember your other NickNames o especially HD*hehehe). Wonderful! Fab! Awesome! (all na the same) but just this confession, I found a sis in you.  Gentle though observant and caring. And  to this babe that nicknamed me “Debby Snipper”, next 2 years, we’re rocking your asho-ebi.

Omoh

4.       Omowumi Oshodi(300Level Russian Language): Paruski Mama! GoodCook. This funny chic could either make you laugh while sulking or make you ponder over some of her words(which perhaps come in proverbs). The originator of Hian-Ho, Ob**so matter and Paruski. This jovial chic is that one person I greatly miss. Truth is, you’re unique in your own way.

IBK

5.       Raphael Ibukun(400levelAdult Education):  my colleagues with the petite stature. That wife material, colleague, sister, friend,  good cook, down to earth and quiet.  I love you so much baby

Deb and IBK

Ully

6.       Uloma: kind hearted chic, wonderful babe and nasty in her own way. Cute!!! Can’t go a day without soliloquizing *runs*.  IBK’s  perfect match as a roomie, you guys would end up breaking eachother’s head someday. *Forgive me for this* but trust me, I’d never forget you for the fact that you can sleep on broken bottle. i miss you though

Toyin

7.       Toyin Aiyepola(500level Law): You’re looking for a brilliant Chic, Orator and proficient reader? She’s a good one. You wanna read an interesting novel/book she’s read and you think its boring. Oh! You’ve missed it. That take-home-to-mama chic*clearsthroat*(Dudes!, never mind, Mr. Dami ownns her aiidy). Her arm are never stiff  to outstretch them to you, aside reading novels and seeing movies, her hobby is dolling out hugs. Caring babe!

8.      

Yetty Mama

9.       Yetunde(400level History and Strategic Studies): “DebbyDeborah” is what she calls me.lively chic, Neat Cook! Good Cook!! (I bet you’d barely find a splash of oil on the floor during and after cooking). She’s that wife material. Nice and naughty in her own way.

10.   Aramide(law200level):  Aramz is respectful, humble, reserved, blunt, cool. And yea! Movies!!, Novels!!!, good music!!!, you’d find this gregarious chic doing either of them aside academics.

11.   Yemisi(200Level Fiinance) : focused babe, always smiling, lover of Good music, reserved and caring.

Tobi and Deb

12.   Arowolo Tobi(400level Educational Administration): a roomie, sister, friend, colleague, that business woman.

13.   Remi: Caring!, Business! Money!! Business! That wife material!!, shes got the ibo blood flowing through her Yoruba veins. She’s sweet but as for the Lion bed, (am I Lion? Does my hand look like a Lion’s?) that’s a later gist.

14.   Henrietta: I think everything disgusts her, she could puke once she perceives raw egg. She loves batting her eye-lashes or naturally bats them ‘whatever! Warris my own consign xef’ but the truth of the matter is “wherever you are on this Planet  earth, I’m saying hi”.

Deb

15.   Deborah Odeniran(400level Adult Education):  I can't speak for myself though but as most roomies would say ‘I get starting beht I no get finishing’. All my ranting for that room na just empty threat, (I’m always looking for my tube that can barely size anyone*sighs*) and I can disturb ehn! Ask Ope, Yetunde and all.

It was a short while though but the memory still lingers on. I love y'all *kissesssssss

The Echoes of Life

Today’s ODM (Our Daily manna) was an inspiration to me that I couldn’t resist sharing it here. 

In our daily activities, as an individual, you must know how to handle the people you will come across this year as you journey through life.  Definitely, this year God will use fellow men/women like you to life your life/ministry. It is germane for you to always remember that “it is nice to be important, but it is more important to be nice!.

 An instance in the Bible is Abraham, he did not know he was entertaining angels in Gen 18:1 – 10!  What he did provoked divine intervention!  Speak kind words and you will hear kind echoes!

 The fact about life is that “what you send out, you get back! What you give, you get!”. It can also be inter-phrased as “what you sow, you reap”.  People may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do! This can be attributed to the popular saying that goes thus “action speaks louder than voice”.

 One of the personal  prayers i pray daily is “God use me as a source of blessing/happiness to others”. Truth is you might not know how that can be done (particularly when you’re not financially buoyant). Perhaps, money does everything, but trust me prayer solves everything.

Give a smile, not a scowl! Give a compliment, not a complaint!, give encouragement, not criticism!, Give kind words, not curse words!, Give money, not mocking!

A hug could do, that’s more or less a great way of showing acceptance/love. That smile from you could heal someone’s heart, its free! You ain’t charged any fee for it. Do it!

The bottomline is “Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it”.  

if your attitude to life is (full of negative thoughts) “Life is cruel, life is hard, life is unsatisfying”, the echo from life flows back to you because such views that dwells within your perspectives tend to turn out real. But if your attitude towards life is vice-versa (in a positive way)”Life is good, Life is sweet, Life is satisfying” The echo from life flows back to you! Life is what you make it, and how you make it starts from within before it can be projected out. What you input is what you produce as an output(Luke6:38). Also, we get from others in the long run, just what we give. Likewise, we get from ourselves, just what we give ourselves.

            Just as the yoruba song goes thus “enikeni ti o ba n’ipa, lati she iranlowo fun o, oun na l’eni k’eji re, ranti re”. meaning (whosoever is within your reach that needs helps, and you have the power to help, he is your brother/sister/partner, help him/her. 

        Regardless of whatever is happening in your life at the moment, Learn to see life in a positive perspective and it’d smile back at you, you should always make others happy. Be kind to everyone. And more importantly, voice out your life the way you want to hear it sound.

Have a Blessed week ahead!

Deborah Olamide   

DO!